Thanks, Sarah...I also started a new thread and tried to read the loooong P&S thread that you were posting in.
Perhaps my best solution will be 2 different lenses--one bright telephoto with IS for sports, and another one equivalent to a 50 mm for everyday? But, again, perhaps my standards aren't quite as high as John's and I would be okay with a lesser system (just for recording my daughter's activities, not trying to be a pro here)?
How does the Sony A230 (if I recall that model # correctly) compare to the Canon Rebel XSi? I'm liking the idea of in-body IS...